“A Best Wellness Book of the Year” —Library Journal
"Benjamin Franklin Multiple Award Winner” —IBPA
“Book of the Year Award Finalist” —Foreword Reviews
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“A Best Wellness Book of the Year”
– Library Journal
The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”
In a recent post, I explained how procrastination is a control based avoidance mechanism that carries potentially severe consequences. Withdrawal is another such mechanism that can be even more detrimental to our well-being. At times we all have had the urge to retreat and “hole up” and just escape the world. This is understandable […]
The Instant Holiday Stress Remover!
The Holidays are upon us! As beautiful as this season is with decorations, holiday songs, and gift giving, it also comes with a lot of stress , anxiety, apprehension and agitation. Getting the expensive item on sale, standing in lines, and traffic, traffic, traffic. It’s little wonder that our anger can flash at the […]
Avoiding Avoidance
Many of us have little inkling about how much, how often, and in what ways we try to control people and things around us—and how it harms us. Controlling conduct is not always assertive or overt. It is often subtle and even passive, […]
Accepting “Lulls” and “Lows”
We all have uncomfortable lulls in our lives where we feel things are at a standstill, or when we have nothing interesting or productive to engage us, or when we simply feel stuck. Even the word lull itself makes me feel a certain dread. My lulls often occur after I’ve completed a project or endeavor in […]