The need to reign in our unhealthy compulsion to control is thus more important than ever, whether we are a so-called “control freak,” a micro-manager, a nitpicker, or simply someone who controls excessively.
Toward that end, I will be sharing pertinent “Truths and Tips” through Q &A’s aimed at recognizing, clarifying, and understanding important aspects of the control dynamic, followed by some related questions for you to ponder.
Below is the first one. Others will follow in upcoming posts.
Q: What is the prime driver of our need to control others and outcomes?
A: FEAR! Fear is the catalyst for most unhealthy controlling actions. We are fearful of the unknown and unexpected; the “what ifs” and “what might happens.” We lack trust that we will be able to take care of ourselves or that our needs will be met if we let things be or run their natural courses. In the deepest sense, we are afraid we won’t survive. That’s why we are compelled to continually press and work hard to change or control others and outcomes.
Questions for You to Ponder:
“What core fears propel you to control?”
“Has the Covid-19 Pandemic impacted your controlling ways? How ?”
Please share your responses with me!
In the meantime,
“Let It Go–and Accept “What Is!”
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