Challenges of Accepting People and Things as They Are

Challenges of Accepting People and Things as They Are

There are formidable challenges to accepting people and things as they are.  In the Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People and Things as They Are I explore in depth how to overcome the main obstacles to practicing acceptance.  As part of my...

5 Ways High Expectations Hurt You

In Losing Control, Finding Serenity, I explain how high expectations are a driving force behind our need to control our loved ones, children, friends and others. High expectations of others pressure them to do and be what we want, or what we feel...

Benefits of Accepting Your Child’s Path

Many parents pressure their children to follow the same paths they followed, or ones that they believe are “best” for them, particularly with regard to education and vocation decisions, religious choices, and cultural and social activities...

Acceptance, Expectations, and Control: Vital Links

There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control.   That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control...

Albert Pujols–The Way Out of Your Slump

Poor Albert Pujols.   All those high expectations from fans, the owner–and  himself. And why not?   A $240 million dollar contract can drum up a lot of expectations. Is there thus any wonder why Albert is slumping so terribly?    Undue...

How to Lower Family Expectations

High expectations of others plant the seeds for disappointment and resentment. Whether assertive or subtle, expecting too much of others pressures them to act and be, as we want them to. At its core, it is our attempt to control or change...

Tips for Letting Go of High Expectations

In my last post I shared the intentions for 2012 that I felt would allow me to let go of more control in my life.  A key one was  “moderate my expectations.”  As I have mentioned before, unrealistic expectations propel us to try to control vital...

Tips for Letting Go of Stress During the Holidays

The holiday season is a time of great stress and anxiety for most people.   We are forced to plod through heavy traffic, wade through crowded stores with too few sales clerks, incur unwanted financial burdens, and attend family gatherings fraught...