Overcoming “Lulls” and “Lows” in The Time of Coronavirus

Overcoming “Lulls” and “Lows” in The Time of Coronavirus

(5th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“)  I don’t know about you, but its easy for me to fall into a “lull” and “low” during The Time of Coronavirus. Every day seems the same, yet I feel different almost every...

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

 “These are Times that Try Men’s Souls” In December 1776 General George Washington and his troops were facing imminent defeat, having been driven out of New York and chased across New Jersey by the British. Washington had been deserted by...

How the Serenity Prayer Helps Deal with the Coronavirus

How the Serenity Prayer Helps Deal with the Coronavirus

The Serenity Prayer* has really helped me in dealing with the severe impact of the coronavirus and I hope it can help you as well. Every day it becomes more clear how powerless—and helpless–we are over so many aspects of the Covid-19...

The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”

The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”

  In a recent post, I explained how procrastination is a control based avoidance mechanism that carries potentially severe consequences.  Withdrawal is another such mechanism that can be even more detrimental to our well-being. At times we all...

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude

  Gratitude is a common subject of many recovery books and articles. Below is an article about gratitude I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest...

A Valuable Key to a Healthier Heart

A Valuable Key to a Healthier Heart

When my doctor checked my pulse and blood pressure at a recent physical exam, my pulse was only 47—well below the 60-80 norm—and my blood pressure was a healthy 98/68.  Admittedly, I exercise regularly, but leaving the doctor’s office I wondered...

Letting Go of Control Truths

Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Most control freaks do not agree with the above statement. What about you? Not sure you agree? Then consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you...

Acceptance or Denial? It’s Your Choice to Make!

Acceptance or Denial? It’s Your Choice to Make!

  When we are struggling in coping with a troubling issue, we basically have two choices: We can accept the underlying reality of the situation, or we can deny it.  It’s your choice to make! I strongly encourage people to choose acceptance...

Accepting Your Foes Helps!

Accepting Your Foes Helps!

Reading the above title, you may be thinking, “Why should I accept people who are trying to harm or cause me trouble?  They are the last people I would want to accept!” I know I used to feel that way, especially before starting my personal...

The Link Between Addiction and Control

The Link Between Addiction and Control

The lives of addicts often reel out of control, especially for those who have not started down the path to personal recovery. Many feel ashamed and powerless over their addiction and many things in their lives. To counter their anxiety and...

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

Many people call them control freaks.  Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book Losing...

Letting Go of Denial

Letting Go of Denial

Denial is usually associated with rejecting or denying a certain state of affairs, or thinking or believing that things “aren’t so.” However, denial really encompasses much more than that; wishful thinking, turning a blind eye, and withdrawal...