The Trust—Control Dynamic

The Trust—Control Dynamic

Many of us have trust issues and are control freaks. Have you ever thought about the connection or dynamic between control and trust? Or more specifically, about how trust impacts our ability to let go of control? To be truthful, I hadn’t given...

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude

  Gratitude is a common subject of many recovery books and articles. Below is an article about gratitude I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest...

A Valuable Key to a Healthier Heart

A Valuable Key to a Healthier Heart

When my doctor checked my pulse and blood pressure at a recent physical exam, my pulse was only 47—well below the 60-80 norm—and my blood pressure was a healthy 98/68.  Admittedly, I exercise regularly, but leaving the doctor’s office I wondered...

Letting Go of Control Truths

Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Most control freaks do not agree with the above statement. What about you? Not sure you agree? Then consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you...

The Control—Misery Link

The Control—Misery Link

Control freaks beware—those controlling tendencies can create misery in your life. A friend recently shared, “The more I try to control things in my life, the more miserable I become.  In fact, the misery in my life is directly proportional to...

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

10 Ways the Need to Control Hurts You

Many people call them control freaks.  Some call them controllers.  Others refer to them as nitpickers and micromanagers.  Whatever you call them, they all have one clear thing in common: The Need to Control. Hence, the subtitle of my book Losing...

The Blessings of Acceptance

The Blessings of Acceptance

There is an integral relationship between accepting life and people as they are, and enjoying a life with greater serenity.   Acceptance leads to new choices, discoveries and possibilities—many unexpected—as well as reduced stress, worry, and...

Intentions for Accepting Others as They Are in 2017

Intentions for Accepting Others as They Are in 2017

As we begin a year of great uncertainty, and for many, great fear and anxiety, it is important to consider what we can do to bring greater peace and serenity into our lives and those we love.   For me, that begins with striving to accept people...

Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2016

Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2016

Still feel the need to control too much in your life?   Setting intentions for letting go of control is one of the best ways in which to reduce the need or compulsion to control people and things and enjoy the serenity that is sure to follow...

Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2015

Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2015

  Have you set your intentions for 2015 yet? Because of their importance to my serenity, I annually review and update my intentions for letting go of control. Such intentions are highly effective in reducing our need or compulsion to control...

An Essential Key to Avoiding Holiday Stress

An Essential Key to Avoiding Holiday Stress

It’s during this time of year that we often hear the proverbial, “I just dread the holidays.” I previously shared how this “dread” and its associated stress and anxiety can be lessened by letting go of control, as well as offering some useful...

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude*

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude*

  Freedom people living a free, happy, carefree life at beach. Silhouettes of a couple at sunset arms raised up showing happiness and a healthy lifestyle against a colorful sky of clouds background. *Below is an article I wrote that was...