Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

         (4th in an ongoing series on Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus) I’ve often talked and written about the importance of moderating our expectations if we wish to control less and accept more.  High expectations can hurt us in a lot of...

Dealing With Fear in The Time of Coronavirus

Dealing With Fear in The Time of Coronavirus

(Second in an ongoing series, “Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus” The many uncertainties and unknowns of the coronavirus pandemic have heightened our fears. So many of us are engulfed in never ending “what ifs” and “what might happens”–...

How the Serenity Prayer Helps Deal with the Coronavirus

How the Serenity Prayer Helps Deal with the Coronavirus

The Serenity Prayer* has really helped me in dealing with the severe impact of the coronavirus and I hope it can help you as well. Every day it becomes more clear how powerless—and helpless–we are over so many aspects of the Covid-19...

Avoiding Avoidance

Avoiding Avoidance

                         Many of us have little inkling about how much, how often, and in what ways we try to control people and things around us—and how it harms us.  Controlling conduct is not always assertive or overt.   It is often subtle and...

Accepting “Lulls” and “Lows”

Accepting “Lulls” and “Lows”

We all have uncomfortable lulls in our lives where we feel things are at a standstill, or when we have nothing interesting or productive to engage us, or when we simply feel stuck. Even the word lull itself makes me feel a certain dread. My lulls...

Optimizing The Benefits of The Serenity Prayer

Optimizing The Benefits of The Serenity Prayer

The Serenity Prayer* is my guide to practicing acceptance in all my affairs.   It is a prayer for acceptance that allows me to be more fully aware, from the very start of my day, of the vast number of things I cannot control or change, and it...

The Humility/Acceptance Link

The Humility/Acceptance Link

In media interviews for The Gifts of Acceptance I am often asked,  “what are the keys to practicing acceptance?” When I say “humility” is an important key, some interviewers ask me to explain further because the link between humility and...

I Honor My Father by Accepting Him as He Is

I Honor My Father by Accepting Him as He Is

My father, Morry Miller, was only 21 years old when this Air Force photo of him was taken. During World War II he captained over 35 missions in the dangerous South Pacific with the famous (and infamous) heavy, unsafe B-24 bomber that was...

The Best Mother’s and Father’s Day Gift: ACCEPTANCE

The Best Mother’s and Father’s Day Gift: ACCEPTANCE

We’re taught to honor our mother and father.   But what if they weren’t exactly a model of calm maternal and paternal caring, strength, and guidance during your childhood.   What if they still criticize and demean you, infuriate you, or simply...

Three Misconceptions About Acceptance

Three Misconceptions About Acceptance

Do you have trouble accepting annoying people in your life?  If you are like others I have spoken to on the matter, your thoughts on the subject might be similar to theirs: Why should I accept . . . My sister’s condescending behavior? My mother’s...

Emerson and the Correlationship Between Control and Contentment

Emerson and the Correlationship Between Control and Contentment

As a prequel to the pages of Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control Hurts Us and How to Let It Go, I cited the following insightful words of Ralph Waldo Emerson from his essay, “Spiritual Laws,” published in 1841: “There is a...