Truths and Tips #7: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #7: Letting Go of Control

Q: How can letting go of control allay some of the fear and anxiety associated with the current economic uncertainty brought about by Covid-19?  A: The feeling of being powerless over our finances (and job prospects) can be extremely...

Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

          Q: Is it difficult to let go of control?  Where does one begin?  A:   Letting go of control can be extremely difficult because we have been raised with control; it is taught to us and all around us.  Our parents, bosses, teachers, and...

         Truths and Tips #5: Letting Go of Control

         Truths and Tips #5: Letting Go of Control

Q: How does our need to control stiffen life’s possibilities?  A:   When we focus too intently on trying to control or change people and things we are putting “blinders” on our selves, and literally can’t see the options and opportunities that...

Truths and Tips #3: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #3: Letting Go of Control

Q: How can we reduce our fears so that we will control less?  (Part 2) A: Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips Q&A #2 emphasized the importance of identifying our fears as the first step in reducing or removing them. Once you have a clearer...

Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Truth and Tips Q&A #1 explained how fear was the prime driver of our need to control others and outcomes. Q&A #2 is a logical follow up: Q:How can we reduce our fears so that we will control less? (Part One)  A:  Effectively reducing our...

Overcoming Denial in The Time of Coronavirus

Overcoming Denial in The Time of Coronavirus

(8th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus”) Overcoming denial is a prerequisite to acceptance.  You can’t accept “what is” when you are unaware, can’t, or refuse to “see” the underlying reality of the situation. This is...

Letting Go of Judgment  in The Time of Coronavirus

Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus

  Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus  (6th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“) I’ve always struggled with being too judgmental of others.  I’ve worked a lot on being less so, but it takes constant...

Overcoming “Lulls” and “Lows” in The Time of Coronavirus

Overcoming “Lulls” and “Lows” in The Time of Coronavirus

(5th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“)  I don’t know about you, but its easy for me to fall into a “lull” and “low” during The Time of Coronavirus. Every day seems the same, yet I feel different almost every...

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

 “These are Times that Try Men’s Souls” In December 1776 General George Washington and his troops were facing imminent defeat, having been driven out of New York and chased across New Jersey by the British. Washington had been deserted by...

How the Serenity Prayer Helps Deal with the Coronavirus

How the Serenity Prayer Helps Deal with the Coronavirus

The Serenity Prayer* has really helped me in dealing with the severe impact of the coronavirus and I hope it can help you as well. Every day it becomes more clear how powerless—and helpless–we are over so many aspects of the Covid-19...

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Accepting our loved ones for who, what, and how they are leads to greater trust and deeper bonds, two of the major gifts of acceptance I write about in The Gifts of Acceptance.   Simply put, it improves the love flow. Not so simple, however, is...

The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”

The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”

  In a recent post, I explained how procrastination is a control based avoidance mechanism that carries potentially severe consequences.  Withdrawal is another such mechanism that can be even more detrimental to our well-being. At times we all...