Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

          Q: Is it difficult to let go of control?  Where does one begin?  A:   Letting go of control can be extremely difficult because we have been raised with control; it is taught to us and all around us.  Our parents, bosses, teachers, and...

Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Truth and Tips Q&A #1 explained how fear was the prime driver of our need to control others and outcomes. Q&A #2 is a logical follow up: Q:How can we reduce our fears so that we will control less? (Part One)  A:  Effectively reducing our...

Letting Go of Judgment  in The Time of Coronavirus

Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus

  Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus  (6th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“) I’ve always struggled with being too judgmental of others.  I’ve worked a lot on being less so, but it takes constant...

Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

         (4th in an ongoing series on Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus) I’ve often talked and written about the importance of moderating our expectations if we wish to control less and accept more.  High expectations can hurt us in a lot of...

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

 “These are Times that Try Men’s Souls” In December 1776 General George Washington and his troops were facing imminent defeat, having been driven out of New York and chased across New Jersey by the British. Washington had been deserted by...

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Accepting our loved ones for who, what, and how they are leads to greater trust and deeper bonds, two of the major gifts of acceptance I write about in The Gifts of Acceptance.   Simply put, it improves the love flow. Not so simple, however, is...

The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”

The Harms of Withdrawal–And How to “Return”

  In a recent post, I explained how procrastination is a control based avoidance mechanism that carries potentially severe consequences.  Withdrawal is another such mechanism that can be even more detrimental to our well-being. At times we all...

The Instant Holiday Stress Remover!

The Instant Holiday Stress Remover!

The Holidays are upon us!  As beautiful as this season is with decorations, holiday songs, and gift giving, it also comes with a lot of stress , anxiety, apprehension  and agitation.   Getting the expensive item on sale, standing in lines, and...

Optimizing The Benefits of The Serenity Prayer

Optimizing The Benefits of The Serenity Prayer

The Serenity Prayer* is my guide to practicing acceptance in all my affairs.   It is a prayer for acceptance that allows me to be more fully aware, from the very start of my day, of the vast number of things I cannot control or change, and it...

The Humility/Acceptance Link

The Humility/Acceptance Link

In media interviews for The Gifts of Acceptance I am often asked,  “what are the keys to practicing acceptance?” When I say “humility” is an important key, some interviewers ask me to explain further because the link between humility and...

I Honor My Father by Accepting Him as He Is

I Honor My Father by Accepting Him as He Is

My father, Morry Miller, was only 21 years old when this Air Force photo of him was taken. During World War II he captained over 35 missions in the dangerous South Pacific with the famous (and infamous) heavy, unsafe B-24 bomber that was...