The Illusions of High Expectations

The Illusions of High Expectations

  When we expect too much of others, most often we are trying to change or control them in some manner.   And in doing so, by definition, we aren’t accepting them as they are. Simply put,“When you expect, you can’t accept.” The Illusions of...

My Personal Prayer for Acceptance

My Personal Prayer for Acceptance

 For eighteen years, the Serenity Prayer has been my personal prayer and acceptance guide. “God, Grant Me the Serenity to Accept the Things I Cannot Change,    Courage to Change the Things I Can, and    The Wisdom to Know the Difference.” The...

The Genesis of The Gifts of Acceptance

The Genesis of The Gifts of Acceptance

 The genesis of my book “The Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People and Things as They Are” began with a short blog post I wrote almost 10 years ago titled “5 Good Reasons for Accepting People As They Are.”

Truths and Tips #9: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #9: Letting Go of Control

Q: What is wrong with trying to control the circumstances of our lives? A: It’s important to distinguish between those circumstances that are set or fixed and those that are not.

Truths and Tips #8: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #8: Letting Go of Control

Q:  Romantic relationships can be stressful, especially when we try to “improve” or change our partner’s behavior and habits.  How can accepting our loved one for who they are enhance our love bond? A: I don’t think any of us like being told by...

Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

Truths and Tips #6: Letting Go of Control

          Q: Is it difficult to let go of control?  Where does one begin?  A:   Letting go of control can be extremely difficult because we have been raised with control; it is taught to us and all around us.  Our parents, bosses, teachers, and...

Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Letting Go of Control Truths and Tips (#2)

Truth and Tips Q&A #1 explained how fear was the prime driver of our need to control others and outcomes. Q&A #2 is a logical follow up: Q:How can we reduce our fears so that we will control less? (Part One)  A:  Effectively reducing our...

Letting Go of Judgment  in The Time of Coronavirus

Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus

  Letting Go of Judgment in The Time of Coronavirus  (6th in an ongoing series on “Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus“) I’ve always struggled with being too judgmental of others.  I’ve worked a lot on being less so, but it takes constant...

Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

Managing Expectations in The Time of Coronavirus

         (4th in an ongoing series on Acceptance in The Time of Coronavirus) I’ve often talked and written about the importance of moderating our expectations if we wish to control less and accept more.  High expectations can hurt us in a lot of...

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

Acceptance in the Time of Coronavirus–A Series

 “These are Times that Try Men’s Souls” In December 1776 General George Washington and his troops were facing imminent defeat, having been driven out of New York and chased across New Jersey by the British. Washington had been deserted by...

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Improving the Love Flow Through Acceptance

Accepting our loved ones for who, what, and how they are leads to greater trust and deeper bonds, two of the major gifts of acceptance I write about in The Gifts of Acceptance.   Simply put, it improves the love flow. Not so simple, however, is...