A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude*

*Below is an article I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of virtues, but the parent of all others”–Cicero Being grateful or practicing...

The Trust–Control Dynamic

Have you ever thought about the connection or dynamic between control and trust?   Or more specifically, about how trust impacts our ability to let go of control?  To be truthful, I hadn’t given it much thought until I read and successfully...

Intentions for Accepting Others As They Are in 2014

Because accepting others as they are is vital to our over all well-being and contentment (See my post, “Five Good Reasons for Accepting People as They Are”), I have found it helpful to formulate acceptance intentions to follow and review during...

The Confidence/Control Connection

I am always exploring the connections between our feelings and emotions, behavior patterns and our propensity to control—or not control–others and outcomes.   Certain control catalysts are quite clear—fear, anger, anxiety, for...

Benefits of Accepting Your Child’s Path

Many parents pressure their children to follow the same paths they followed, or ones that they believe are “best” for them, particularly with regard to education and vocation decisions, religious choices, and cultural and social activities...

Acceptance, Expectations, and Control: Vital Links

There are vital links or connections between acceptance, expectations, and the need to control.   That’s why they are such an integral part of the discourse on this blog and in my book, Losing Control, Finding Serenity: How the Need to Control...

Does Accepting Others as They Are Really Help?

In these highly divisive, hectic, and chaotic times, accepting others as they are is more vital than ever to our overall well being and contentment. (See my post, “Five Good Reasons for Accepting People as They Are”).  This is confirmed by...

Two Keys to Accepting Your Love One As They Are

I’ve previously shared two keys to enhancing the love flow on Valentine’s Day: *Accepting your love one as they are, and *Moderating the expectations you have of them. In this post I would like to expand on the importance of “love acceptance”...

Intentions for Letting Go of Control in 2013

Serenity Because of their importance to my serenity, I annually review and update my intentions for letting go of control.  Such intentions are highly effective in reducing our need or compulsion to control others and things.   Below are my...

Let Go of Anger by Acknowledging Your Part in It

Anger usually breeds controlling actions that are harmful to others and us, whether it be harsh words, divisive actions, or retaliation.    We all too often become obsessed, possessed—and even recessed!  It is therefore important to find ways in...

Leaders Need to Know When to Relinquish Control

One of the main purposes of this blog is to demonstrate the harms of excessive control in all areas of our lives, the benefits of letting go of control and how to do it.   In that regard, my posts (and book) examine the many facets of the control...

Control Troubles in Paradise

Finding serenity by "losing" control in paradise I think most people (myself included) take vacations to take a break from their busy, and at times hectic and stressful lives.    Vacations give us the opportunity to spend unhurried...