Challenges of Accepting People and Things as They Are

Challenges of Accepting People and Things as They Are

There are formidable challenges to accepting people and things as they are.  In the Gifts of Acceptance: Embracing People and Things as They Are I explore in depth how to overcome the main obstacles to practicing acceptance.  As part of my...

The Gifts of Accepting Our Children’s Addictions

The Gifts of Accepting Our Children’s Addictions

Some people–maybe even you–upon reading the title of this post might immediately retort something like, “Gifts? What do you mean mean gifts?  My child’s addiction has been nothing but a horrendous burden for us.” I...

The Link Between Acceptance and Recovery

The Link Between Acceptance and Recovery

In a previous post, The Link between Addiction and Control, I considered whether a pertinent connection exists between addiction and control. I hypothesized that because the internal lives of most addicts are so out of control, they attempt to...

Keys to Moving from Denial to Acceptance

Keys to Moving from Denial to Acceptance

Overcoming denial is a prerequisite to acceptance. You can’t accept “what is” when you are in denial, because you are unaware of or can’t “see”the underlying reality of the situation or person. Simply put, you...

Does Accepting Others as They Are Really Help?

Does Accepting Others as They Are Really Help?

In these highly divisive, hectic, and chaotic times, acceptance of others as they are is more vital than ever to our overall well-being and contentment. This is confirmed by the most highlighted reader quote from Amazon’s best selling eBook...

Finding Time by Letting Go of Control

Finding Time by Letting Go of Control

How often do you find yourself wondering, “where has all the time gone today—or this week?” I wonder about that fairly often and my guess is that most people do as well—and it’s an issue that constantly frustrates control freaks. There is...

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude

A Unique Benefit of Practicing Gratitude

Gratitude is a common subject of many recovery books and articles. Below is an article about gratitude I wrote that was recently published in Tiny Buddha, a leading personal growth and inspiration blog. “Gratitude is not only the greatest of...

Letting Go of Control Truths

Letting Go of Control Truths

“Let go of control. You never had it in the first place!” Most control freaks do not agree with the above statement. What about you? Not sure you agree? Then consider this: “If you always do what you always did, you always get what you...

Acceptance or Denial? It’s Your Choice to Make!

Acceptance or Denial? It’s Your Choice to Make!

When we are struggling in coping with a troubling issue, we basically have two choices: We can accept the underlying reality of the situation, or we can deny it.  It’s your choice to make! I strongly encourage people to choose acceptance because...

Are You a Love Controller?

Are you or your loved one a love controller? If so, this can be very hard on the relationship. Love control obstructs the romantic flow.  It forces the action, rather than allowing the love currents to unfold naturally so that people can relax...

The Control—Misery Link

Control freaks beware—those controlling tendencies can create misery in your life. A friend recently shared, “The more I try to control things in my life, the more miserable I become.  In fact, the misery in my life is directly proportional to...

Letting Go of Denial

Denial is usually associated with rejecting or denying a certain state of affairs, or thinking or believing that things “aren’t so.” However, denial really encompasses much more than that; wishful thinking, turning a blind eye, and withdrawal...